Why Being a Bridesmaid is No Walk in the Park
Weddings have become more extravagant and outrageous than ever before. Every couple is looking to top the ones that married before them, creating the best ceremony and reception that the wedding world has ever seen. There is nothing wrong with these goals, however, but they can take a big toll on the other people involved in the wedding.
As weddings become more elaborate, bridesmaids are asked to take on much more than some can bear. The bride wants to have more for her wedding, but does not want to increase her stress or responsibilities, so instead she turns over more stress and responsibilities to her bridesmaids in order to have her perfect wedding day. Here are a few of the reasons why being a bridesmaid is no walk in the park, and how you can cope.
It is expensive
Weddings are very expensive for the couple that is planning it, but it also can run up a big bill for the wedding party. Bridesmaids have to pay for a dress, one they will probably never wear again, pay for their hair and makeup to be done, pay for accessories and shoes, pay to arrange bridal showers and bachelorette parties and many other wedding related functions. These expenses can be a bid shock to someone who hasn’t been saving up for them. If you are having trouble affording your bridesmaid elements, consider talking with the bride to help bring down the costs, or team with other bridesmaids to make the costs more reasonable.
It is time consuming
Wedding planning is a full time job, and as a bridesmaid, you need to be there with the bride for much of the planning to assist her and make sure everything goes well. This can be a big time suck for any bridesmaid. It is frustrating because you are not as emotionally invested in the day as the bride is, but at the same time you want to be there for her to make her day special. Prioritize your time to make sure that you can easily take care of everything you need to in your own life before volunteering all your help to the bride. She may be upset at first, but she will understand later that you have your own life to worry about too.
It is stressful
Whether or not the bride realizes it, she will inevitably release all of her wedding planning stress unto you as a bridesmaid. It is your job to not only help her stay calm, but to keep yourself calm and relaxed in the midst of all the wedding chaos. You also need to pick out cool groomsmen gifts that everyone will like, which is not an easy task. These tasks are not even including all of the stress you have to carry on the actual wedding day. It can be easy to get overwhelmed, but remember what your goal is, helping your bride have the best wedding day possible.
It is rewarding
Bridesmaids complain a lot about the duties and responsibilities they have to endure, but the truth is that being a bridesmaid is a very honorable and rewarding experience. You were chosen to be the one that helps the bride create her fairytale day. You want to see her truly happy, just as you would want your bridesmaids to do for you on your wedding day. After you see the couple in bliss on their wedding day, you will know that all the money, time and stress that you endured to make the day possible was all worth it.
Tina Hamilton is a journalist, blogger and social media guru. You can usually find her online or walking along one of Southern California’s beaches with her dog, Joey. You can find her on Twitter.